Its An Amazing Journey; Life's Winding Path (Pt. 1)

Our life path is a winding one. Full of uncertainties, but high expectations in hopes that someone along the journey circumstances will get better. Destiny works in the background of our personal universe and we can bend so much of it to cater to our needs or so we think. We prayer, guidance and self improvement, we motivate ourselves to catapult into greatness. Through empowerment, our souls are enlightened allowing us to become visionaries and  the fuel to contentiously defy odds, But sometimes the fuel gets low or exhausted. The path seems as if it spiraling out of control. We feel helpless, powerless and sometimes lost. But it doesn't have to be. Although, things can be overwhelming, it helps to breathe and gain control and prioritize. Learn to pick your battles and live to fight another day. So today I'm sharing 5 (part 1) of 10 ways to help along life's winding path. Be the warrior goddess you are created to be!


Get Organized
Chart your daily task to maintain balance. Balance is a key component in marriage, social relationships, our jobs, our entire life. Without balance, daily task may seem unbearable to tackle causing lost of interest in achieving goals. There always that "inner" voice denying the dreams inside you. Weighing heavy on your heart, filling your mind with doubts. Managing life through organization helps make the go by, plus itemized task are much simpler. Break the day down into do-able blocks. Allow yourself a time frame to do things around house. I like to dedicate 2 hours to writing, 3 hours for house work, an 1 or so preparing meals (depending how much I cook) and an hour on managing bills. It may not seem like a lot, but it helps.

Be a Beacon for Someone Else
Try sharing your experiences with other people .Hundreds of people are hurting and have no one to turn or talk to. For the most part, people just want someone to listen and hear them pour out their hearts without judgement. As truth is revealed,  our story helps others view their lives in a different perspective allowing a chance to heal.  Imagine that, the simplicity and connection we can offer by sharing or testifying our life experiences is healing for both. Sharing is an uplifting action that may encourage others to do the same. Nonetheless, a wonderful thing happened and you we're part of it.

Everyone Has a Purpose
Admittedly, I wanted so much to be an actress. Attracted to fame, I knew my star quality would shine through- securing leading roles, exquisite restaurants, fancy cars..etc. But the universe had a different path for me to follow. As I got older, my dreams of  being a famous actress, where just that...a dream. I realized one of  my gifts was cooking and making others happy with my edible creations. The other is writing. Both equally bring me joy. Ultimately, my goal is to write a book for millions to read and own a bed and breakfast. I accepted my calling, which now I'm diligently working to make it a reality. I'm a firm believer of walking on water while allowing God to take the wheel. You have to trust your path to an higher authority, believing your purpose is not unfilled. By staying grounded, your source will continually guide you in the right direction. Never give up!

Voice Your Expectations

Don't be afraid to speak your mind in a tactful and respectful manner. Often, in relationships we fail to set ground rules on how we want to be treated nor do we know to manage the expectations of others. Failing to voice your expectations makes it more difficult to have specific boundaries. Being upfront in the beginning, raises awareness of goals while minimizing confusion. Discussing what you'll like out of the relationship and holding true to whatever agreement is reached. Voice what boundaries should not be crossed and enforce them. Common mistakes made in relationships is allowing the line to be crossed and backing down on consequences just to draw another line to be crossed in the future. No lesson is learned... but an open opportunity to allow it to re-occur. Enforce your right to be respected. Acknowledge your diva power and harness the joy it brings.

Tying Loose Ends
Relationships are about giving and receiving. Although some are for a small season while others are a lifetime, we're going to encounter disagreements. As with any relationship a strong support system is key. Whether it be with parents, siblings or partners -upsets and disappointments will occur. Communication is extremely important in building strong relationships. Having clear and honest conversations about one's feelings breaks the barrier and allow healing to begin. Don't yell or speak while the other person is talking - its rude and nothing gets solved. Instead center yourself and hold your peace until its your turn. Out of 16 years of marriage, we're not always going to be on the same page. We try to interpret each other actions or assume the other person knows what is causing the problem. Instead we grant each other space and retreat to our corners of the house. Once the intensity has settled, we talk. At this time, we'e receiving and listening to what is being said. All in all, people come and go, but its part of the journey and its best to learn and grow.